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I know that it can be difficult healing your marriage after an affair. One of the most serious problems that needs to be addressed is the issue of trust. If your husband cheated on you, it is common to feel that you can't trust him or doubtful if he will cheat again. But here I want to share a couple tips which will help you revive the trust in your relationship and get your relationships back on the path to success.
Transparency Explained - I have said before that transparency is the key to reviving the trust in a relationship, but what exactly does this mean? Put simply transparency is info about you and your thoughts that you freely offer to your spouse. This is info that the other person doesn't have to ask for, beat round the bush about, or in any other way work to get out of you. This is just what's on your mind at any given moment.
This is a two-way street too. Both you and your partner must consent to start practicing transparency. It cannot just be one of you otherwise it may come to feel just like a punishment for the affair. True healing isn't about guilting or punishing your husband for cheating, but more about rising above the pettiness of getting even and building a relationship that works.
Being Transparent - If, for instance, you wanted to go out with your friends for dinner after work, you would simply tell your partner this as an act of transparency. If your partner has questions about where you are going or who will be there, openly and instantly offer up any details. Remember, that you have nothing to hide , so you shouldn't have any problems with explaining or elaborating.
Being Clear as Equals - Remember again that the purpose of transparency isn't to humiliate your spouse or to keep him on a shorter leash so as to punish him. Transparency is an act of respect. This should never turn into a game of asking for permission to do something.
You both are married and share a life together. It is respectful to let one another know what you are doing so the other can plan accordingly. Things will go a lot smoother if you tell your husband that you are meeting some coworkers after work so that he knows not to surprise you with your favorite dinner tonight.
This is truly just about basic communication and should not be seen or used as a power play or a technique to "keep and eye on" your unfaithful partner out of distrust.
By utilizing this code of transparency in your relationship, your marriage will begin to improve. This could appear like common sense information , but for many that were raised in dysfunctional families or have difficulty communicating and sharing their wants, this is a simple practice that will help bring you and your husband closer together.
Transparency Explained - I have said before that transparency is the key to reviving the trust in a relationship, but what exactly does this mean? Put simply transparency is info about you and your thoughts that you freely offer to your spouse. This is info that the other person doesn't have to ask for, beat round the bush about, or in any other way work to get out of you. This is just what's on your mind at any given moment.
This is a two-way street too. Both you and your partner must consent to start practicing transparency. It cannot just be one of you otherwise it may come to feel just like a punishment for the affair. True healing isn't about guilting or punishing your husband for cheating, but more about rising above the pettiness of getting even and building a relationship that works.
Being Transparent - If, for instance, you wanted to go out with your friends for dinner after work, you would simply tell your partner this as an act of transparency. If your partner has questions about where you are going or who will be there, openly and instantly offer up any details. Remember, that you have nothing to hide , so you shouldn't have any problems with explaining or elaborating.
Being Clear as Equals - Remember again that the purpose of transparency isn't to humiliate your spouse or to keep him on a shorter leash so as to punish him. Transparency is an act of respect. This should never turn into a game of asking for permission to do something.
You both are married and share a life together. It is respectful to let one another know what you are doing so the other can plan accordingly. Things will go a lot smoother if you tell your husband that you are meeting some coworkers after work so that he knows not to surprise you with your favorite dinner tonight.
This is truly just about basic communication and should not be seen or used as a power play or a technique to "keep and eye on" your unfaithful partner out of distrust.
By utilizing this code of transparency in your relationship, your marriage will begin to improve. This could appear like common sense information , but for many that were raised in dysfunctional families or have difficulty communicating and sharing their wants, this is a simple practice that will help bring you and your husband closer together.
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